4 Qs - Holding Change Too Tight

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This week, we start a new series about perspectives on change and how they can help us be effective change leaders. Take a spin through our previous newsletter on the Satir J Curve, a model that illustrates our journey through change.

Quintessential Thought

Today, we start by addressing the danger of holding the change too tightly. We want to be passionate advocates for the improvements we seek. However, when we have a vice-like grip on those improvements, we quickly lose our perspective and make ineffective decisions.

What does it look like when we’re holding a change too tightly?

• Demanding that others change, using words like “must” or “should”

• Viewing questions as threatening and showing flashes of anger at any perceived opposition

• Fearing what might happen if the change doesn’t happen

When we take this stance, those we’re trying to influence will either resist the change or tell us what they think we want to hear, regardless of reality. To top it off, we will have a bias to filter incoming data so it shows what we want to see.

Taking a balanced approach is more helpful and effective for change. This looks like:

• Being both passionate about the change and open to learn

• Inviting others into the change

• Facilitating conversations about the problem, opportunity, and solutions

With this balanced approach, you can see the current reality more clearly, be ready to make thoughtful decisions, and guide your team through the inevitable bumps.

Quotes

“I find that when you open the door toward openness and transparency, a lot of people will follow you through.” - Kirsten Gillibrand

“Science means constantly walking a tightrope between blind faith and curiosity; between expertise and creativity; between bias and openness; between experience and epiphany; between ambition and passion; and between arrogance and conviction - in short, between an old today and a new tomorrow.” - Heinrich Rohrer

“The boldness of asking deep questions may require unforeseen flexibility if we are to accept the answers.” - Brian Greene

Quick Step

Have a conversation with one other person involved in a change you are passionate about. See what you can learn from them about the change that you didn’t know before.

Question

What is it costing you, your product, and your team when you’re holding onto a change too tightly?

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